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How many times have you heard someone said something like this to you when you felt so down? “Just get over it! What he said is true. You shouldn’t have done that!” “Why are you crying? It’s not a big deal!” “Don’t take it personally!” There might be a lot right? Let me rephrase that. How many of us have said them to our friends or family who need help? Can we remember? I bet none of us can remember it clearly since we lost count of it. Victim blaming, ever heard of it? According to an article on Harvard Law School Halt website, “ Victim-blaming is the attitude which suggests that the victim rather than the perpetrator bears responsibility for the assault. Victim-blaming occurs when it is assumed that an individual did something to provoke the violence by actions, words, or dress .” In other words, we blame the victims for their unfortunate grief just because we assume they say or do something that trigger it. Some research revealed that victim blaming ...

you may get hurt. you may feel down. you may cry a lot. you may be in so much pain. you may not even understand why you feel that way. you may have no idea why the pain still lingers after all this time. your dreams may be shattered. your world may be turning upside down. your love may break your heart into pieces. everything may go somewhere you don’t wish for. everyone may go against you. you may be lost somewhere somehow and you may not know how to get back. you may think it’s over. you may feel life is unfair. you may want to run away. you may be willing to leave everything behind. you may not believe in higher power anymore. you may not love yourself any longer. you may lose your faith in human. you may hate life itself. But... you must know , it’s okay to feel the pain. being hurt is a very human thing that happens to us all. being vulnerable is normal. don't hate yourself for that, please. you must believe , you are stronger than you think and...

As someone who loves reading and writing so much I can’t live without my books and notebooks. I can stay home for the whole week just for reading some moving self-help books or nerve-wrecking novels. I don’t need cozy coffee shops for writing new blog posts because my bedroom is a perfect place to put my ideas into words. Yup, my home is my heaven because I have everything I need. However, 2 weeks ago I decided to leave my sanctuary for almost a week. If you read my previous post, you must have known that I went to Ubud-Bali for a retreat. If you haven’t read it you can check it on A Retreat to Ubud : A Reflection . It didn’t really turn out well but for some reasons I was glad to be there on that week. One of the reasons is I got to enjoy one of the biggest literary festival in the world, Ubud Writers and Readers Festival 2019 . So guys, please stay with me until the end of this post because I’m gonna tell you everything you need to know about this awesome event that you can’t mis...

I believe everyone has ever been longing to a place they’ve always wanted to see and visit either it is for vacation purposes or spiritual ones. For me that place is Ubud, a tourism region in Bali. I’m so thankful that recently I got a chance to visit and stay in Ubud for a while. After moving to Bali early in October I planned to have a retreat for myself. I guess I wanted to have a new start for my new life. I wanted to refresh myself and leave everything behind . I have some reasons why I chose Ubud instead of Kuta or other popular places in Bali. One of them is I wanted to join Ubud Writers and Readers Festival 2019 that I’ll tell you in a different blog post. Also, I wanted to stay in a quiet and peaceful place and Ubud sounded like to be a perfect place for that. After staying in Ubud for 5 days I think I expected this place too much. I expected to find myself or something that might make me feel spiritually charged. So far I did learn something but unfortunately I ...