What Perfect Life is

Malang, 15 Maret 2019

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Living is simple. You just need to breathe, eat, sleep, and do basic simple things living things do. What makes it complicated for human beings to live? For me, the answer is our desires. Perfection and living a perfect dream life are what most people seek out there. We have our own version of what life should be inside our mind. We try to actualize them so we can be happier. Living a luxurious life, having lots of money, being famous, travelling around the world, and etc are what some people desire to have in their lifetime. Yeah, it might be different from one person to another. But we all have one thing in common. We want a perfect life.

Is it possible to have a perfect life like we have always wanted? Yes and No. Congratulations for those who finally live their perfect life after struggling so hard and letting go so many things. You guys deserve it. However we all know that things do not always go as we want or plan. There are more people out there who don’t get what they wish for. Telling you the truth life can change its course without our permission. Who are we to give a permission? We aren’t God. That’s when reality strikes. What we want isn’t always coming true even after all the things we’ve sacrificed. Our perfect life can be just a dream that will take time to be realized.

Please don’t be sad and anxious guys. What I told you is just one possibility from million possibilities we have. Eventhough now you don’t get your perfect life yet it doesn’t mean you don’t live a good life. As someone who believes in God, I personally believe that my version of a perfect life isn’t always the best version in God’s definition. It is possible that if my dream comes true it might just ruin me in the future. It is possible if it happens I won’t be the same person again. There are a lot of reasons why we don’t get what we want. Maybe now you have no idea what it is and you are extremely frustrated because of it. But I’m sure sooner or later you will find it out and I believe it’s for a good reason.

I’m still struggling to keep in faith in the idea of God always has the best life scenario for His believers. How come? I’m just human being everyone so my heart could waver anytime. So to avoid that I have to remind myself of 3 life lessons I get from my mom. Sabar, Syukur, Ikhlas. Or in English Patience, Gratefulness, and Having a big heart to let go things. (sorry I couldn’t find the right translation for Ikhlas). You know what, the struggle to keep those 3 lessons is real. Sometimes my emotion takes over my mind and heart until I couldn’t be patient on dealing with reality. It’s difficult for me to be grateful when I don’t get what I expect. Moreover when I lose something or someone I deeply love, I couldn’t let them go sincerely eventhough I already know they are not mine to begin with. Life is unfair that’s what I used to say. Now I’m trying to stop saying that because I realize it’s no use.

Complaining about life is meaningless. I learn to stop doing this bad habit of mine because it’s extremely toxic. Thank God I can do it! Applying those 3 lessons make me realize that my life has been great. I know my dreams do not always come true but it’s alright. It is not the end of the world anyway. I have kind, loving, and supportive family and friends. I’m healthy. I have a good and decent job. I don’t have any debts. I can be independent. I have freedom to be what I want and do things that I like. So I have a good and perfect life already. What could I ask for more?

I start to reflect things I’ve gotten so far. I’ve always earned the best from the best. I just never realize it because I’ve always compared my life to someone else’s. That’s the beginning of my downfall. I don’t want to feel bad about myself and my life anymore because I know I’m enough. That’s why now I stop looking up to people. I stop adoring my friends and famous people out there. I stop being curious about their life. I stop looking down at myself.

I start to just focus on my own self-development by reading more books, writing my own personal journal, and watching self-help videos made by my favorite youtubers. I start  getting to know what really happens in real life and try to figure out what I can do to make it better. So far this is really helping me to find myself and how meaningful my life is. As long as I can help people and do something beneficial for others my life is enough. It’s already perfect for me. Seeing their smile and how happy they are with what I’m doing are the signs that say Izza. You’ve done great! Good job!

So guys, if you think you don’t live a perfect life, the best in your time, look again. See what you’ve gotten so far. Make a list of things you should be grateful of. Reflect every single best thing life has given you. Look how far it has taken you to. Remember the life lessons it has taught you. Focus on yourself. Motivate yourself to live your best life. Succumbing yourself in negative things won’t do any good. It will just waste life itself. Remember we only live once, so live it to the fullest. Things won’t always go as we want them to be. But it doesn’t mean we have no choice. Life is unpredictable. Let’s enjoy the ride and look forward where it will take you and what surprises it prepares specially for you.

Bismillah...